The ideal location for living will be determined by factors outside your immediate family objectives. Daily inconveniences, such as the heavy traffic, the high crime rate, the virtual absence of school buses, the feasibility of walking anywhere meaningful, the density of English speakers in the area, etc. will influence your decision, as well as the always present monetary angle. It may be that the Ocean view Penthouse you desire is out of your reach.
That said, it must be pointed out that Puerto Rico has many very desirable living areas. We will direct you to the best liked, and try to point out their advantages and disadvantages. Safety has become a prime consideration in Puerto Rico. Therefore, gated communities are very desirable.